Sometimes all it takes is a change in attitude to deliver us from difficulties.
Some years ago, I found myself in an internal conflict over a situation with one of my clients. Although I cannot remember what it was about, at that time it was of such importance that it was holding my attention and imagination hostage. What I do remember is, whatever it was I wanted was not available to me at that time.
So there I was, rolling down the freeway in the clutches of the aggravation and attachment to my desired outcome. Having worked myself up into a froth of frustration, I finally remembered I could ask for help.
“Please,” I assailed my Source, “Help me! I can’t figure out how to resolve this. What am I supposed to do? Give me a sign!”
Just then, my exit presented itself and I as I veered off the freeway and around a sweeping curve to merge into a boulevard of traffic, there to my right was a red and white triangular sign that simply said . . . Yield.
It was another block or two before the full impact of the message blossomed in my mind. Stunned into stillness by the subtle simplicity of its wisdom, I was able to let go of the way I thought things should be and be with the way things were. As my mind floated free from resistance, my whole body relaxed and a sense of relief and hopefulness flooded through me. Yield! Ah so.
To this day, I am unable to remember the factual content of this conflict to include in this story. But as it turns out, the story is not about the content. The story is about the process. Once I was able to yield my position as an opposing force, of pushing against the other person’s position, I was free to consider other possibilities. Those included a number of different solutions and outcomes and also the option of simply waiting until a resolution I hadn’t thought of came my way.
The esoteric science of Alchemy offers us the principle, “Tertium non datur,” which translates as “The third thing is not given.” I interpret this as meaning that on the level at which a conflict or opposition arises, the solution is not available. One must step aside, yield as it were, to release the pressure of pushing against the other, to release the need to defend or aggress.
This yielding is not a giving up or resigning ourselves to loss or failure. It is a position of fluidity that allows us new perspectives. This in turn allows us to access our Fair Witness, who, free from judgment, is able to entertain all possibilities and who has the broad vision to help us seek a wise resolution.
Once there, we can feel safe enough to open our hearts to compassion, for ourselves and the other, and to access the courage to change. Once there, we can give up our small desires for some larger solution, something with benefit for all.
Excerpted from An Invitation to An Extraordinary Life
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